Blog post #5 Envy Everywhere

That is definitely right! Envy is everywhere, in our offices, schools, even in our homes. You can never escape envy. But where can you find envy most? I think in my work, maybe my officemates envy me because my boss always compliment my work, always recognize me or giving more incentives not because I am favorite but because  I am a very good employee which is my  office mates can’t do that’s why they envy me. That will be the start that they make noise against me just to pull me down. That’s the only thing that envy can do by annoying you. I’m already working so I already experience that kind of defamation. I noticed that it really has a bad effect to my career even though Im a good employee. But it has more bad effect on their career because they are the one who suffer that envy that makes them not great in their work instead of being a functional employee in our company.

            And according to “Envy at Work” by Tanya Menon and Leigh Thompson “Envy damages relationships, disrupts teams, and undermines organizational performance.”  Envy is really a distractive thing any different aspect like what articles said. It can affect our relationship with our friends, family, workmates or even in our brothers and sisters. Envy comes in deferent shapes and sizes so we really need to be careful.

           

In our home there is still envy, actually this is the place where we first feel the feeling of becoming envious. Maybe because our brother or sister receive a new toy from mom and dad maybe because its their birthday, but still you envy them, or maybe your not the favorite kids among your siblings or cousins so you will get jealous.

When I was young I also fought with my brother and sister because I envy them sometimes because their always getting our parents attention, but there are also times that they envy me. Having an envious act inside the family is not healthy to your relation between you and your family. Because it may cause misunderstanding, argument, and sometimes dissatisfaction with your parents and siblings.

           

But what are the cause of jealousy between siblings? According to “Siblings Rivalry” by M. Farouk Radwan “ “. I’m also agree with this statement because sometimes parents have favoritism. And also from M. Farouk Radwan there are some common parenting mistakes that lead to sibling’s jealousy or envy, the first one is creating competition between siblings. Creating competition between siblings the first mistake parents make which always results in sibling’s rivalry is letting their children perform the same exact activities. For example patents could send their children to play the same sport without realizing that each of them has different talents and skills and as a result the less talented kid will always feel jealous of the more talented one. Another one is comparing them to each other comparing children to each other always results in the development of jealousy between them. "Be polite like your brother" is one of the common phrases that ignite jealousy between siblings without the parents notice. And one last thing is birth order and siblings rivalry for example the first child usually feels jealous of the new born because of losing the excessive attention he used to get from his parents. Newborn children result in sibling’s jealousy because the other children always feel dethroned by the arrival of that new sibling

If this three most parenting mistake can avoid I think there will be no envious feeling between siblings. But this not the only places where envy lived, remember that envy is everywhere. So where ever you just be careful and never let other people envy you and don’t let them to put you down.