Blog post #7 Envy Me?

            

         

 Me as a Senior Supervisor in Silverworks for 7 years I already experience to be envied by my co-workers. I don’t know why they envy me, I didn’t do anything to them maybe they envy me because they can’t perform the way I perform in my job though I always share my strategy to them and guide them but still there are some people that envy me. And it really affects my perception. Because they make rumors about me that sometimes hurt me emotionally and that emotion teach me to fight back against them which is not my behavior.

If the common emotion of envy can be destructive, it seems plausible that People do not like to be envied.  Research on how people feel and behave 

when  they  outperform  others  indeed  suggests  that  people  often  feel  bad 

after outperforming others, even though out performance often means doing 

well, which should feel good. Out performers often feel concerned about the 

feelings  of  the  persons  they  outperformed,  about  how  these  people  will 

react  to  them, and about whether  the  relationship with  them might  suffer. As a result, people sometimes prefer private praise 

to  public  praise,  even  though  one’s status can only be improved after public praise.  

Although  to  my  best  knowledge  no  empirical  research  directly 

investigated  how  the  fear  of  being envied influences  behavior, history and 

society  seem  full  with  examples  of  envy  avoidance  behavior.  People 

sometimes  also  forego  direct  gains,  because  accepting  them  would  make 

Other people feel bad

            And even you didn’t do anything there is always someone that will envy you, but there still a way to get rid of their envy to you. According to “Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings” by Mary C. Lamia “Being helpful or friendly to a person who envies you is a strategy that can diminish the destructive effects of their envy “ It is true that if you make friend with the person that envy you there’s maybe a chance that his/her envy will diminish. But still you need to be careful because there are also chance that they will take advantage to that. And on Fear of Being Envied Makes People Behave Well Toward Others from Science Daily “New research in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, has found that the fear of being the target of malicious envy makes people act more helpfully toward people who they think might be jealous of them.” Well for me If this is the only way to diminish their envy to me I’ll do it because Im not the only one who will benefit its for the good of each other.

            Being envied is not a good thing but if you look to a brighter side it’s a different form that someone idolized you and they admire what you have which is they want to have it to.